“Girlfriend, I am saving you from the anguish! Don’t you even attempt to wear those white pants. It’s the end of September. Hang ‘em up, your cellulite and pink underwear are showing. You don’t even need to go there!”
Whew, thank goodness I have several “true blue cellulite friends.” Never heard it quite expressed my way?
Honey, everyone needs a couple of these confidantes in your lives. You know, the kind of friend that will let you know the hamburger is stuck in your front teeth and the chocolate ice cream residue is smeared on your mouth BEFORE you walk before a crowd to give a speech on self esteem and eating healthy. Better yet, I love to take my friend Phyllis bathing suit shopping. She kills me with her candid responses, BUT she has saved me a lifetime of embarrassment! “Bev you just might want to try a bathing suit with... how should I say this politely…. a little skirt on the bottom?" Honestly, I love it. She has got to be one of the greatest shopping buddies. “Hmmm... those are slimming, but those are not, don’t you think you’re a little old for the JUNIOR department?”
I have friends who are experts in the fake tanning department, “Bev you are looking rather ORANGE today, you trying a new spray?” Then there are the accessories; most of the time you will find my jewelry and shoes will match. They can’t help but coordinate. Half the “accessory police" department lives in my neighborhood. No kidding, sometimes I cannot even get out of my driveway without someone issuing me a citation! I’m on probation now, just for wearing scuffed up boots and “out of style ear bobs.” We will not even go there with the looks my friends have given me in Zumba class! I just shout back, “Don’t say a word, can’t you see my pants are SPLIT, I’ve fallen and I can’t get up!”
Oh, but there is just something special about that spiritual accountability that dear friends can hold you to. Everyone needs a peer or mentor that they can trust to hold them responsible in their relationship with Christ, in their marriage,with their children and in areas that we are known to stumble. That accountability is simply just a check and balance system that protects us from harming others and ourselves. My friend, Sherry, and I have such a bond. We confide, pray, listen, cry, laugh and encourage each other. There have been touchy times in my marriage, finances, with my job and even with my health when I did not need someone to necessarily solve the problem…. I just needed someone to listen. At the same time she would say, “Bev let’s take a look and see what the Bible says about this.”
My first accountability is to my God. The dearest most precious friend I have. Yet that accountability to another friend is simply being responsible for my actions. Do you have a confidant to whom you can go? Will that person truly hold you accountable in your spiritual walk, or simply share the words you want to hear? If not, pray and begin to ask God to send someone in your life to encourage and empower you. You will find that when your world is turned upside down and you just don’t know how you are going to make it, there is nothing more precious than a godly friend. On occasion, I have to remind myself of how essential it is that I am being that kind of friend to others.
“Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.” James 5:16 NIV
Which kind of friend are you?
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More than 1,000 women worshipped, sang, listened, laughed, cried, prayed, received prayer, shopped, ate chocolate and had some great girl time together. What an amazing day! Thank You, Lord!!